Hero/Zero

I think it’s time we talked this over
I think you’ve taken this too far
I never wanted to be different
Didn’t ask to be nobody’s star
Try and take control of it
Cause what you see is what you get
Try and take control of it
And not me

You say there’s talk of revolution – so what’s new?
You say there’s fighting in the air
You think that I’ve got the solutions
But do you really think that’s fair?
Try and take control of it
Cause what you see is what you get
Try and take control of it
And not me

[Chorus:]
Don’t wanna be nobody’s hero
Don’t wanna be nobody’s star
Don’t wanna be nobody’s hero
Get up get out be what you are

You think it’s time you took me over
To do what you can’t do yourself
But don’t let heroes get your kicks for you
It’s up to you and no-one else
Try and take control of it
Cos what you see is what you get
Try and take control of it
And you’ll see

[Chorus]
You think you’re nobody
And I get all the fun
But no-one is a nobody
Everyone is someone

[Chorus]

Be what you are

-Stiff  Little Fingers

Over and over again we hear about someone famous, someone who is ‘supposed” to be a role model failing to live up to what “they should be”. We get angry if Kat von D doesnt act like our idealized tattooer, if some kid on Intervention doesnt display the ‘correct” level of willpower, if Brad Warner isnt all nice and fuzzy the way a zen master “should” be, if a Terrell Owens doesn’t act like a “good sport”, if 50 cent isnt still doing drive bys, if Gene Simmons isnt still boning 12 groupies a night,  over and over we are disappointed when someone we know only vicariously dares to act “wrong”. We get angrier about these folks behavior than we do about the exact same action of our close friends and family.

We have expectations of what someone “in their position” ought to be doing. We want them to be better. better than our friends, better than our family, better than US! We want our heroes to be someone we can worship, someone above reproach. We want perfection. We also want a non-stop inspection these people, a full body scan of their every thought and action and the second they deviate from any idea we have of their ideal behaviour we are ready to destroy them. It’s why you couldnt pay me to be famous, not for all the money in the world.

Not only is it an insane demand to place on another, very human, person, but it is sheer laziness on our own parts. We want there to be someone to do all the “right” stuff so that we can like them, and by extension, bask in the glow of their righteousness. We want to have someone to hold up like a shield in front of ourselves, someone to tell us what to do and to always be right. We make up rules in our head and then get upset when the rest of the world doesnt abide by them.

Its time that we stood on our own two feet. Its time to accept our own responsibility for our own lives and more importantly its time to stop placing other people above or below us. A person is just a person no more (or less) than that. Some behave in ways that inspire us, but they are not doing this “for us”. In the end it is up to each of us as individuals to decide to behave the way we know is true and honest. Frankly it’s not their job to live up to our expectations.

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  1. “We want there to be someone to do all the “right” stuff so that we can like them, and by extension, bask in the glow of their righteousness. We want to have someone to hold up like a shield in front of ourselves, someone to tell us what to do and to always be right.”

    OR we want make ourselves feel better by scrutinizing someone else. anytime we are talking about someone else or gossiping we are putting ourselves in the forefront in some way. being critical of another person when they aren’t a part of our lives makes for an easy ego boost.

    “We make up rules in our head and then get upset when the rest of the world doesnt abide by them.”

    “any life run on self-will can hardly be a success. On that basis we are almost always in collision with something or somebody, even though our motives are good. Most people try to live by self propulsion. …
    what usually happens? the show doesn’t come off too well. He begins to think life doesn’t treat him very well. he begins to exert himself more…
    Our actor is SELF-CENTERED-EGO-CENTRIC as people like to call it nowadays…
    “selfishness-self-centeredness! that is what we think is the root of our troubles. driven by a hundred forms of FEAR…we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate.”

    all this suffering can be avoided in living a life that is focused on what we can contribute to life and less about what is going on in our crazy brains. MAINTENANCE of a spiritual condition everyday, AWARENESS of how our minds trick us, and COMPASSION when people make us angry or afraid is what seems to be working in my life lately. when i WORK IT that is. IT WORKS IF YOU WORK IT!

    XOXOX

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